Consent video transcript

Consent is the most important part of sex.

Because without consent it isn’t sex … It’s rape, or sexual assault.

You and your partner must agree that you both want to have sex.

Both of you have to be totally up for it.

You can’t bully, trick, pressure or threaten someone into consenting.

And if someone is drunk, sleeping or passed out, they can’t legally give consent at all

You need to get consent every time you have sex.

None of us are mind readers.

So just ask.

And really listen.

Ask things like ...‘is this what you want?'

‘Is this ok?’

‘Do you want to keep going?’ … if they consent, you’ll hear things like

... 'Yes!

Keep going.'

But if they say 'No' 'Can we slow down?'

'I guess.

If you want to.'

Or if they don’t say anything at all … Stop.

Just stop.

Legally, consent can’t exist if it's not communicated by words or actions.

A 'no' means there is no consent.

So talk to your partner.

Check in.

Anyone can change their mind.

And if your partner withdraws consent and you keep going...

It stops being sex.

And it becomes rape or assault.

Because no one owes you sex, and everyone always has the right to say 'No'.

It doesn't matter how much you want it.

What they're wearing...

If they've had sex with you before...

Or if they've had sex with loads of other people before.

Consent isn't just a box that you tick.

It's part of having sex.

It's not that complicated.

You just need to ask.

Because without consent, it stops being sex ... It's rape.

And you don't want to be that person.

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